A lot of debating went into writing this article but I would not be true to my readers if I didn't....after all this is The Risque Cafe.NAKED and UNASHAMED by Pastor Dr. Stacy Spencer raised a lot of questions.
Is Pastor Spencer and his wife really this freaky? LOL
As the church folks say...Are they that worldly?
What straight man wants someone or is comfortable with someone sticking 2 fingers up his ass? As one of our callers put it...."My ass is an exit not an entrance." Straight men are not comfortable with you playing around in that area. This is a quick way to get your wig split!
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Is this his way of coming out of the closet to let the world know he's been on the down low?
How can a man tell you how to perform oral sex on another man unless he has done it personally himself. I can tell you what I like and what feels good to me..but I can not give you specific instructions on how to do something unless I have done it myself. In the book, Spencer states "When a woman is performing oral sex on her husband, she should imagine that she is eating her favorite Popsicle in the heat of the day and if it is not eaten fast enough it will melt". What the HELL!
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When he speaks about the man performing oral sex on his wife, it reads as if he has gathered this information from a third party. His writing isn't as descriptive as it is when he's talking about a woman performing oral sex on a man. Why is this?
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OR.........
Is this a PIMP MOVE...is this all about MONEY?
What extreme will a person go to for money? We all know controversy sells and has made a lot of best sellers.
FAME.....Does he want to be on TV, radio, and other media outlets that badly? I guess being a minister over one of the largest congregations in Tennessee isn't enough.
He claims this book is to help married couples with their sex lives....how many these $15 help books has Spencer given away for free? Is Spencer saying knowing how to have sex with your spouse is more important than knowing how to communicate (talk) with each other? Sex solves everything plus no one will cheat because now they know how to please their mate in the bedroom. I guess you don't need to find out from your mate what pleases him or her.
I believe in thinking outside the box and pushing the card but this maybe over the line. Men can you imagine your wife going to another man...minister or not and asking him how do I give head? 9 times out of 10 she's going to him alone. Hmmm...wonder how that session is going to go.
The church workshops and couples retreats are great. I think they are needed and can be useful. Having a healthy sex life is important. It helps to reduces stress. Just think about that woman that works with you who keeps a bad attitude or is always mean and nasty to everyone. The first thing we say is "She just needs some d**ck." Christians need sex too. However, your business does not have to be everybody business. When a person accepts their calling from God, there are responsibilities and expectations that come with it. Surely being a minister has not changed that much. Relationships are not just about sex. Most marries do not end because of sex. Two of the biggest problems people have in relationships is knowing how to communicate with one another or the lack of communication...the other major problem is finances.
There is a correct order to everything. Do you think this is crossing the lines?
What's your honest opinion? What message do you get from this? After reading the book what were your thoughts?
