Everyone has experienced or been at this same point whether you were on the giving or receiving end. You meet someone. He states he’s not looking for a relationship right now. He wants a friend. If things work out as time goes on, then maybe things will go to the next level. You all start spending a lot of time together. He’s feeling you; you are feeling him. Both of you are enjoying your time together. What the hell, everything is going well, so sex is added to the mixture.It’s good as well.
Let’s break things down a little. Ladies think back to when you originally met this guy.
Guy 1- States he’s not looking for anything serious, yet his actions are totally opposite. You all are spending quality time together and interacting in a manner you consider as moving toward a relationship or serious. You all are seeing each other and having sex on a regular base. You conversate regular, pretty much everyday. You and your girlfriend are out and you see him with someone else. He waves or gives a head nod and keeps going.
Guy 2- He’s a popular guy and pretty much among the “who’s who”. His approach is a little difference. He’s a private person. He doesn’t want anyone to know who he’s dating because of the rumors that could follow. You respect that. He’s out quite often with different women. However, you are not sure if he is dating any women definitely. Or he may have a girlfriend that he's dating seriously or a wife. He's not about to mess up his home, but you like the things that he's doing for you or just who he is.
Now let’s evaluate this.
Number one, a player knows what to do to get what he or she wants. A real one knows what to do to keep what he or she has once it’s gotten. Look at the situation you are in and ask yourself, “Is this what I want? Or I’m I settling because I think there isn’t anything better?”
Second, don’t assume because you all are having sex and spending alot of time together that it’s more than just that. Women are notorious for doing this. Remember he told you in the beginning he was looking for a friend. Yes, his actions say other wise but his words were very clear. Your true feelings have no place here.
Third, remember your options are open just like his. This doesn’t mean there is something better, but who knows. I know some of you all will say this is a waist of time. If you are investing your time, mind, and body into someone that just wants to be friends and you want more, then they are wasting your time. You should care more about yourself than to let someone else take your time and waste it.
If you are here, make sure you are getting what you want or need out of the situation. If not, this will cause you many head and heart aches. Take the person at face value and ask questions, but be ready for the answer you get. Be honest with yourself and remember you deserve to have what you want.
Settling does not have to be an option!!!!!
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